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As seen on the weekly Love & Marriage segment of Fox8
As heard co-hosting Relationship Thursdays on Q104
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I Love It!
In the Arts & Life section of the September 26th issue of the Plain Dealer was a story, the headline of which read, Darling, will you marry me? And while you answer, smile. Apparently there is a new trend in photography called “Proposal Photography.” Nowadays, you can hire a photographer to hide in bushes, behind plants in a restaurant, or behind a not-quite-closed closet door in order to document that once in a lifetime (or so we hope) proposal moment. Although a hefty price to pay ($500), many men find hiring an undercover photographer worth the cost. If the price doesn’t max out the budget, I say go for it! As with the wedding day, the proposal can be an emotional blur. Any way to memorialize such a special moment, I’m definitely for.
Marriage and Teenagers: Strap in for a Rough Ride!
Lately, I have encountered lots of married couples whose relationship is going through stress and strain. The common denominator between these couples is that they are currently raising teenagers.
”We’ve never argued this much in our entire marriage,” one spouse told me. “I’m not sure if we’re going to make it through.”
There is no doubt in my mind that the period between when your child turns 13 (sometimes a year or two earlier) and early to mid-twenties is the hardest time in your marriage.
And why is that? Because your children are creating a major distraction, which by the way, they are supposed to create. They are going through a rebirthing period in their lives and their job is to consistently and doggedly push the limits. You want them to do that – it’s normal.
What isn’t normal is for you and your spouse to get hooked into their ups and downs in life to the point that you lose yourself and your marriage. What your children want from you is for you to stand on the sidelines and be vigilent with the limits you set. The key is to set them with the least amount of emotion possible, which allows you to keep and protect the energy you need to nurture your marriage.
Although your teenager needs your attention and limits, keep your eye on the ball – your marriage – at all times.
