Post Valentine’s Day Pain

More than a week has passed since Valentine’s Day, and my guess is there are a fair amount of people licking wounds of disappointment. Expectations build starting the end of January, and they hit a peak by Feb. 12th. Will there be roses, candy, notes, a candlelight dinner, or at least an IOU for V-day? If you were one of those people who received nothing to signify this day of love, give yourself a small amount of time to grieve (if you’re still mourning, you’re way past the allotted time) and get clear on what this day means to you. Search your soul for this answer, rather than accepting an answer based purely on commercial influences.

Once you become clear on what Valentine’s Day means to you, have a heart-to-heart talk with your partner about it. Rather than creating a story in your head that your mate just doesn’t care, first give him or her a chance to care. WIthout blame for past V-day “mistakes,” define for your mate your meaning to the holiday. Be careful to avoid coming across as condescending or like a critical parent. Just speak your truth. Then let it go. There’s always next year.

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February 23, 2011 | Filed Under relationship counseling | Leave a Comment